When "Positivity" Goes to the Wrong Path

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Have you ever felt insecure about your hair? your body? or about basically not satisfied with your appearance? I'm sure everyone have ever felt that way at least once in their lifetime. In this article, I wanna talk about body insecurity. This is experienced by everyone from all over world, but especially by girls. Well guys have insecurities too, but I think girls have it worse than guys. 

I've seen this post on my facebook and google about body positive. Of course I support their effort to make women feel positive and more accepting of their bodies, however:

If you say something like this :

I just don't understand. Does it actually necessary put other women down just to make the others feel better? This is NOT AT ALL POSITIVE and it's just toxic.

I've always been that skinny girl throughout my whole life. No matter how much I eat, the number on the scale won't move up. Seeing such post surely hurt my feeling, and I'm pretty sure it hurts other skinny girls as well. If it's not okay to call curvier girls "fat", then why is it okay to call smaller girls "anorexic" or compare them to a "sack of bones"? I totally understand that they're probably just trying to deliver a message to young girls not to starve themselves to death for the sake of beauty, but that's still doesn't make it right to bash skinny women.

Bigger women probably struggle to lose weight, but skinny women also have their own struggles. However, competing who struggles more is not the point. One thing that we as a woman should always remember is that no matter how we look, we will never be enough or right for the society.

 

"You're too fat for that crop top! Time to hit the gym"

"You barely have anything to show with that low cleavage dress, dear."

"You're too skinny. Have you eaten? you look ill."

"That skirt is so provocative. Are you trying to seduce someone?"

"Oh honey, show a bit of a skin. Don't dress like a grandma."

 

Do you understand what I mean? It doesn't matter how much we weight or what clothes we wear, the society will always find a way to exploit our insecurities, leading us to do painful and unnecessary things to achieve the unattainable beauty standard.

 

Can't we just accept that we were born with different body sizes? There's no body type that is better than the other. We need to stop using the term "real women" because ALL women are real regardless of their body sizes. No, we don't need to be skinny to be beautiful. No, we don't need to be curvy to be beautiful, and NO, we don't need society's approval to feel beautiful.

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